The Worry Roller Coaster
The worry train can often feel like a roller coaster ride. Today, our very own Sarah Hurley, writes about her ride on the worry roller coaster, what’s she’s learned in her first 18 months as a mom and some coping techniques she’s learned along the way.
I’m a mom and, at the risk of sounding redundant, I worry.
Pre-pregnancy, I expected mommyhood would magnify this natural inclination of mine. It’s the worry roller coaster that I wasn’t prepared for, and by that I mean the feeling like I’ve overcome a worry, and just as I’m beginning to feel confident, something new happens that reminds me not to get too comfortable. So far, it’s gone something like this …
Round one: I’m pregnant! Woo hoo! But, wait … am I doing this right? Is that supposed to feel/look/act like that? Will we bond? Will I wake up at night when she cries? What will labor be like? Why don’t I feel her moving (poke, poke)? Will I ever see my feet again?
Baby’s here: I guess it I did it right (phew!), we’re bonding (yay!), I wake up instantly (yay!), it wasn’t THAT bad (yay!), she’s sleeping (oops, sorry for poking you) and yes, I have received visual proof I still have feet. I didn’t understand this- am I missing something? Deep sigh of relief. For a moment.
Round two! Is she eating, sleeping, smiling, pooping, peeing, learning enough? Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes and yes.
Round three: She’s mobile! Gates are up, sockets are plugged and cabinets are latched. We’re safeguarded and feeling confident. And then I realize she can reach my nightstand. Note to self and hubby: Prior to crashing into bed for those few sweet hours of slumber, please remove all water glasses, books, eyeglasses, earrings, lotions, cell phones and all other perfectly acceptable items to keep on your nightstand prior to having a curious toddler, out of reach from the super cute hands, eager to discover EVERYTHING.
Now that my daughter is about to turn 1½, I have no illusions that I am on this ride for good and have come up with a few coping methods.
- Enjoy the valleys, be prepared for the peaks. Yes, know that there is going to be a new thing right around the corner. But until it comes, take some pride in the fact that you’ve made it this far, so you must be doing something right.
- Phone/Tweet/Text/Facebook/Snapchat/Facetime/Skype a friend: There’s no greater resource than a friend who has been there and has the benefit of perspective after the fact. Don’t be afraid to reach out and ask, “Is this normal?”
- Focus on the near future: For me, there is a constant nugget of anxiety in the back of my head that is tweenhood and adolescence. I’ve found that keeping that worry active only amplifies my anxiety in the now, so I’m choosing to live in denial for the first couple of years while I focus on what’s important now and in the near future.
We’d love to know … how do you handle the worry roller coaster of parenthood?
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Easing into Potty Training
Potty Training is a big moment for both kids and parents, but it doesn’t always go to plan. Today, our own Marianne Pyliotis guest blogs about a moment she recently had with her potty-training, two-year-old daughter, Olivia.
I braced myself for the terrible twos, but to be honest, it’s not so terrible at all. There are a lot of very sweet moments that make me sometimes question the phrase. Along with the sweet moments are some challenging moments, I’m not going to lie. Just the other night, I took out my two-year-old’s “big girl” underwear and told her she could wear them if she wanted, she just had to use the potty. She had seen them before, but underwear must have been a hot topic at school that day because she was chatting non-stop about how she wanted choo-choo trains on her underwear. I, of course, bought the ones with the cute little owls on them- so you can only imagine her excitement… er… I mean disappointment, when she saw I bought the wrong ones.
Fast forward to bath time, and Olivia announced she would sit on the potty. Of course, this calls for the entire family to come into the bathroom and… wait. And wait. So we waited. And we talked and sang. Then we heard something. I couldn’t believe it! After a round of high 5’s and cheering, Olivia was very proud of herself. So proud, she wanted to repeat it. AHHHHHHH! Her disappointment that she couldn’t go again was enough to send her spiraling into a meltdown, moving into the ever-popular toddler formation that I like to call the “Arched-Back Wet Noodle.”
We had made the decision not to use stickers or toys for a reward for the potty — we could do this Little House on the Prairie-style, right? Surely Caroline Ingalls didn’t have a surplus of toys from Target in the closet to dole out for every successful potty run. Well, we wouldn’t either. We could do this.
I asked Olivia to pull herself together (I really did) but she was now dead weight with her face buried in the floor by toilet. UGH. Now what? I yelled down to hubby for reinforcements. “We need some help in here. Bring the Hershey’s Kisses in here, STAT!”
The moral of the story? Well, Olivia isn’t quite ready for the potty training limelight. However, the Thomas underwear is on order and I now keep Hershey’s Kisses stuffed in my pockets at all times. You just never know when you’ll need them.
We’d love to hear from you. Do you have any good potty training tips to share?